How is it possible that at my age I am having a mid-life crisis?
I have this extreme fear that my life will be over soon and that I have achieved nothing that I wanted to do.
I want to be a writer (I can’t finish a book or get it published).
I want to finish learning playing guitar (Want to be able to play the difficult ones too).
I want to be a singer (Stage fright’s master).
I want my company to succeed badly!!!! (Only surviving!)
All of these things are so hard for me to finish and succeed. You can say JANE OF ALL TRADES, MASTER OF NONE!!! That is exactly what it is.
I have all these amazing ideas in my head. The book ideas are best-sellers, but I just can’t get myself to finish it. Half-way through there is a little voice inside me that says ITS NOT GOOD ENOUGH. It will never sell. THEN I STOP 😦
I wish there was a way that I can just send that part to a publishing company and letting them tell me… OH HELL NO. Don’t even bother trying… I mostly write in Afrikaans and competition is tough. I also don’t have any Degree in literature. The underdog if you will.
PLEEEEAAAASSEEEE any one out there that is feeling as I do? Any tips on how I can pursue my dream and keep going??? I need some MOTIVATION stat!!!
Yours truly,
UNDERDOG
cherub334 
September 9, 2015 at 6:25 am
I had a tremendous mid-life crisis when I was 27, and not only because I started losing my hair.
We measure ourselves against the expectations of capitalism and the idea of upward mobility. When you hit 25 or so, you realize that your childhood is gone. But often you haven’t accomplished what you assume every adult should have accomplished by that age.
What’s more, the United States has no real coming of age rituals like most traditional societies do. At some point in your 20s, your adolescence is gone. But when does adulthood begin? How do we measure it?
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September 9, 2015 at 6:27 am
So true… also I became a mother at 20. Therefor I couldn’t study as I hoped to. Im from South Africa. Things are much different here. But I hear you.
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September 9, 2015 at 1:15 pm
You got this! My mom gave me the wise words that your twenties are the hardest time of your life, even though everyone says they’re the best. As far as the book goes, I am struggling to finish my first novel (which is not my best work actually), and I’m going to probably self publish on amazon. That takes some of the pressure off!
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September 9, 2015 at 1:42 pm
So you are saying there are hope for me still? Phewwww… I didnt know I could self publish. Will see if I cant do that…
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September 9, 2015 at 7:09 pm
Yes! I think basically everyone can. I found someone who has done it before who will help me.
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September 9, 2015 at 7:24 pm
Great stuff!!!! Will you learn me as well?
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September 10, 2015 at 4:13 am
Oh yes, when I am further into it (I’m still editing my first draft). I actually plan to blog about it as u learn
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September 10, 2015 at 4:15 am
Thank you. That is very kind of you. I am still busy with my book. But this time I plan to push through to the end
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September 10, 2015 at 4:17 am
Two tips I’ve learned to writing:
1. Try to outline key plot points
2. Stop writing before you run out of ideas. Always know what sort of happens next so you don’t feel stuck the next day.
Hope this helps!
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September 9, 2015 at 1:46 pm
Fearfully, what genre is your book and what about? Maybe I would be interested to read it… i could be your first buyer 😉
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September 10, 2015 at 4:19 am
My book is a YA novel about a girl’s struggle and recovery with depression and an eating disorder. It also deals with family dynamics and romance.
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September 20, 2015 at 3:32 am
Add a paranormal element or ‘verse & … boom! Market-penetration spike. It would be an especially neat hook–the treatment of commonly uncommon (don’t ask; think I overshot my descriptive intent, but I like the turn of phrase) human issues like depression & eating disorders in a para-verse.
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September 20, 2015 at 3:43 am
Me mum (an Anglophile in Indiana) self-published 2 demure Regency-Era romances on Amazon kindle at age 63 … before sudden hospitalisation & a fast month of cancer holocausted her, my Mommy, into the after that awaits regardless of our degree of mindfulness thereof. (And no, such term does not, in context, detract from The Holocaust–it’s both descriptive of her über-rapid emaciation & it’s scale of emotional effect on me.) Point: If she could do it, it’s doable.
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September 20, 2015 at 3:50 am
“Mid-life” crises have had me (or I them?) at every age since 30. I am now 44. Why do I still feel 20? (Other than the fact–corroborated, not imagined–that I look 15 years or so younger than my DNA. Which I hope doesn’t lull me into a false sense of youth; I prefer and oft enjoy a true sense of youth, no matter how culture categorizes me due to annual digits.)
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